Emotional Health

Happy, No Matter What

The Torah commands us to serve Hashem with joy, but what happens if we're getting tormented from all different directions and we just don't feel happy? Do we fake it? Is that what Hashem wants? Here's a fast-working emotional rescue:

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How to Love Yourself

Shavua Tov! The world is utterly confused between narcissism, a definitely undesirable trait, and loving yourself, which is a key to your happiness, success and emotional health in addition to being the vital element in your relationship with yourself, with others and with the Creator. Since the feelings of inadequacy and that you're not good enough are a worse pandemic than COVID-19, it's vital that we learn how to love ourselves. Let's get started:

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The Dream Love

How would you like to love someone so much and be loved back a hundred times more, to the extent that you no longer care what anyone thinks about you or says about you? How would you like to be so confident in your love that nothing worries you and you're in a constant state of inner peace? Hear this:

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The Jealousy Pandemic

Sometimes, a body suffers but doesn't know why. Is it a virus, a bacteria, some other destructive organism? In similar manner, the soul suffers too and also doesn't know why, but the person is inexplicably down or depressed for no apparent reason. More times than not, the culprit is jealousy, when a person sees him/herself as less successful than someone else. Jealousy is a lot more rampant than Coronavirus; what's worse, social distancing, masks and washing your hands can't prevent it. But, today's podcast can - hear this and with Hashem's help,  you'll feel much better.


7 Steps to Preventing a Panic Attack

If the emotional atmosphere of the constant COVID-19 threat is not enough to trigger panic, then the addition of the week of Tisha B'av makes it all the more acute. Today's post is therefore a practical and effective guide for warding off panic attacks.

To prevent a panic attack, it's important to remember how and why it's happening. King David, the greatest psychotherapist who ever lived, understood the human soul better than anyone else. He said, "Happy is the person whose strength is in You" (Psalm 84:6). In other words, the moment a person realizes that he or she cannot handle a situation on their own, and they turn to the Almighty for strength, then they immediately neutralize panic and negativity. Understand that panic comes from the evil inclination, to disarm and disable a person so that he or she cannot serve Hashem. Our sages in the Gemara teach that no one has the power to overcome the evil inclination on their own. We all in varying degrees are susceptible to panic, but we overcome it as soon as we completely place all our trust in Hashem and throw all our problems into His lap. In the same vein, Rabbi Chaim of Volozyn osb"m said that the spiritual ploy of overcoming any fear or anxiety is simple to remember and repeat ein od milvado,  "There is nothing or no one but You, Hashem!"

Therefore:

Step One of preventing a panic attack is to remember Hashem,

Step Two is to repeat "ein od milvado,  There is nothing or no one but You, Hashem," seven times.

Step Three is to ask the Almighty for help - call his Name out load, be vocal, even yell or scream if that helps you.

Step Four is to get the endorphins (feel-good hormones) flowing. How? Try one of these options: 

    a. Do as many pushups as you can;

    b. Run around the block or jog in place for two minutes;

    c. Do ten squats.

Step Five is to take ten deep breaths, inhaling as deep as you can and exhaling as slow as you can.

Step Six is to sniff the aroma of lavender oil, which is known for being soothing and stress-relieving. It can help your body relax. If you don't have lavender oil, these natural aromas are also effective: jasmine, rosemary, cinnamon or peppermint. 

Step Seven is to call a time out, sit or walk in a quiet place, and speak to Hashem and once again, ask for His help and guidance; He'll be glad to give it to you.

Panic and the above 7 steps are mutually exclusive. But, as preparing for war, we must practice maneuvers. Don't wait for a panic attack to implement the above steps - you can do them anytime and they'll make you feel both calmer and more energized. Since panic leads to depression and depression depletes energy, the above 7 steps are a great reboot.

Once we never forget Hashem and we always remember "ein od milvado,  There is nothing or no one but You, Hashem," we safeguard ourselves against any and all sorts of panic, fear and anxiety. Try it - it works and has been tested under the most extreme of challenges. Every blessing, LB

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Coping with COVID-19: A Stronger Strategy

Many of us are unaware of what's going on inside of us. With pandemic all around us, it's only normal that anxiety levels are on the rise even in people who never suffered from anxiety. It's like walking in a battlefield – as much as you normally retain your cool, it's difficult not to feel pressure when people are getting wounded and dying all around you. That's exactly what's going on in the renewed wave of COVID-19. How can we successfully cope? Let's hear:


Make Yourself Happy

Before you can make others happy, you have to make yourself happy. That's not egotism, but a requisite to emotional health. Therefore, don't do anything unless you want to and it makes you happy. There is, though, one significant exception to that rule - if someone saved your life, you'd be an ingrate by saying, "I don't feel like doing a small favor for that person." Don't forget gratitude, especially during Chanukah, which is a most special time of gratitude:

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